Mindfulness

Hello Honeybees,

What does the word MINDFULNESS mean to you?

Last month I attended a seminar hosted by Methodist Lebonuer Hospital. The guest speaker was ABC news correspondent Dan Harris. Dan talked about the time he had a panic attack on live television. He had become so overwhelmed with life and work that his body, mind and spirit started to betray him. After seeking help for his panic attack Dan learned the importance of meditation. He shares his story in his book 10% Happier. It’s on my nightstand.  I’ll let you know what I think in a later post.

Most of us don’t reach our breaking point on national t.v. but we all can reach that breaking point. As I begin the next century of my life, yes I said next because I’m claiming 50 more years, I have a lot of moving pieces.  To help me cope with all of these moving parts I have started meditating.  I meditate in the mornings before I say my morning prayers.  I typically meditate before my morning prayers because it helps me to clear out all the thoughts that try to interrupt my quiet time. I can go to the Lord with a calm spirit ready to receive Him in. 

I use these apps to help me when I want a guided meditation.

I also like to do yoga. Yoga is a great way for me to relax, engage and exercise.  It is a great release. One of the best things about yoga to me is the community. Practicing yoga with a group brings about a sense of belonging & harmony. If you are looking for a yoga class in Memphis be sure to check out my friend Jackie O!

Jackie has several different way for you to connect on the mat:

Yoga 4 Life is a beginner-friendly class that nurtures the spirit, mind & body with a focus on mindful breathing, stretching, body awareness & relaxation. Each Wednesday, 6-7 pm at Co-Work Memphis, 902 Cooper St., 38104. Pay what you can love offering accepted. Sapphire Yogi Jackie O on Facebook for class & event updates. 

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Mindfulness – Knowing what’s going on in your head and not acting on it

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Yoga Honeys is a Memphis-based health & wellness group for women of color specializing in beginners yoga with a focus on restoration and healing. Monthly class & event schedule available on the Yoga Honeys Facebook page. Group is by membership request.

I encourage you to stop and take some time to center yourself. Take some time to connect with your inner you. Try meditating and or yoga. The results can be life changing. Your mind, body & spirit will thank you for it.

Namaste

Belinda 

Beewisdom- “In today’s rush, we all think too much — seek too much — want too much — and forget about the joy of just being.” ~Eckhart Tolle

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Open Mosque Day

Hello Honeybees,

It’s always a good idea to expand your knowledge about things that are different. I’m talking about people, places and things.  I’m so glad that I learned to not only seek diversity but to embrace it. I’m also glad that my children are able to do the same.

As part of his Bridge Builder experience my son choose to spend part of a Saturday morning learning about the Muslim faith and I was happy to accompany him.  This was the first time that I was able to share his Bridge Builder experience with him.

I am a Christian and have experienced several different forms of religious expression. My first church experience was as a member of the First Corinthian Baptist Church in Chicago, then the Catholic Church which is where I practiced most of my religion, in college I went back to the Baptist church then back to the Catholic Church where I was married.  I am now a member of the Disciples of Christ.

Having the chance to visit a Mosque was a learning experience for both of us. On the way home he said it best: we all believe in God but we just express it in different ways. I was so proud that he received that message. Spending the day learning about the Muslim faith, culture and customs was an experience that I will always remember.

Before our tour we put on shoe covers or you had the option to go without shoes

Wearing a Hijab, for modesty, was a new experience

This is where the men wash before prayer, the ladies had a separate area upstairs

Having the chance to ask questions was part of the activities

There was also food and drink.  I must say the tea was delicious

This year is the 15th Annual Muslims in Memphis Celebration.  There are planned activities & events all month.  To learn more you can visit www.MuslimsInMemphis.org .

I encourage you to get to know your neighbors. We all share this earth together.

Belinda 

Beewisdom- There is unity in diversity

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4 Lessons Learned in February

Hello Honeybees,

Last month I shared the lessons I learned in the month of January . Well I’m still learning and here are the lessons that I learned in February.

Lesson 1:

Your tribe is important

I have always known this but for 24 hours towards the end of the month I was in #Blackgirlmagic heaven. I spent Friday night happy hour with my high school tribe.  Our graduating class was small, 54 total I think, so it’s not unusual that lifetime bonds were formed.  Taking the time to actually sit still and enjoy a drink and a meal was just what we all needed. Saturday I had brunch with a new tribe. Getting like-minded women together to share, inspire, uplift and encourage one another is a great way to spend a Saturday afternoon.

Girl, get you a tribe!

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Lesson 2:

Don’t be shy about promoting yourself

It’s not easy for me to promote myself. I always feel a little, NO a lot of, awkwardness when I’m saying “look at me, look at me”! You would think that in order to blog & put myself out there that I wouldn’t have an issue with self-promotion. Believe me I am working SO HARD to move past this.  In order for me to take my blog to a certain level I’m going to have to be the first person to say “Look at me”. So if you get tired of seeing me or hearing about me…….that means I’m doing it right.

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Lesson 3:

Reading is fundamental

People, people, people…. PLEASE pick up a book!!!  It won’t bite, I promise you.  Try it…you might learn something.  Enough said.

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Lesson 4:

Millennials, I truly love you guys but you WEAR. ME. OUT!

I say this jokingly but in all seriousness, they really do make me tired.  I truly enjoy the go getter spirit, ready to change the world, full of unique ideas, ready to get things done like yesterday. I do love it and them but man they make my head spin sometimes.  Millennials…it’s ok to stop & think before you act.  It’s ok to ask someone that has been there & done that. It’s ok that you didn’t that promotion in 6 weeks….who knows what week 7 has waiting for you.  Chill for a minute…please!!

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Bet you can’t wait for what happens in March

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Beewisdom- “It is not so much about what life hands you,                                                                                       but what you do with what you get.” –  Idowu Koyenikan

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#FollowMeInto50

Hello Honeybees,

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Remember when you were little & you thought your parents were old? But as you got older you began to change that tune. Both my parents died at relatively young ages. My dad was 32 & my mom was 54. I was only 10 when my dad passed & I never could understand why everyone kept saying how young he was. I mean really he was my dad AND he was 32….at 10 that seemed old to me. As I got older, got married & had my first son at 32 I truly realized just how young 32 was & is.

When my mom passed at 54 I had a much better understanding. I knew that 54 was still a young age in which to leave this earth. My mom had just started to live her life. She had just started to do the things that made her happy. She was just starting to spoil herself. She was getting ready to become a grandmother. She realized that all of the hard work & energy that she put into raising me was paying off. She was now “free” to be & do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted. And guess what…I so enjoyed watching her do it!!

So today I celebrate on what would’ve been my moms 71st birthday I am embracing my journey in the 50 club! This year I am running into 50 like I ran into 21. I’m excited about what is to come. I have so many dreams & adventures that I am bubbling over with excitement. 50 is the new 50! I’m going to live my life out loud. I’m going to do what makes ME happy. I’m going to enjoy this life that I have been given.

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I’m not going to into 50 alone…all of my 1967 babies are coming with me as we sashay into 50.  So I invite you to share your living out loud moments this year with the #FollowMeInto50. Let’s have some fun NOW! Don’t wait until it’s too late because we all know that tomorrow is not promised.

I plan to give 2017 all that I have & leave not a single thing on the table. Join me and #FollowMeInto50

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Beewisdom-Live your life and forget your age

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Beware of Hole Punchers

Hello Honeybees,

We all have people in our lives that will try to steal our joy.  You know the people that will try to punch holes in your dreams or your godly assignment. I’m not talking about the people who will pull your coat tail when you are trying to do something wrong.  I’m talking about the people who will try to discourage you from living your dream, living your best life on your terms.

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Say you want to buy a new car. The hole puncher will give you 101 reasons why you shouldn’t. “What’s wrong with the car you have now?” “How can you afford that?”

You want to take an overseas trip. They will remind you over & over again about how unstable the world is. You might get stuck “over there” “You sure you want to go alone?”

You want to quit your job and start your own business. The hole puncher will give you every reason as to why you shouldn’t. “How will you pay your bills?”, ” What about your family”. Yes those are all very valid questions that any real friend will ask but the hole puncher won’t be satisfied when you give them answers. They will keep coming back & keep questioning your decision. They will try to plant that seed of doubt. 

When God gives you an assignment…. (taps mic….) IT. IS. FOR. YOU. NOT. FOR. THEM. 

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Get It!! That’s YOUR assignment. It’s for you and no one else. He gave it to you & he will give YOU the resources to handle it.  Not everyone will be on-board with your dream. Who you share your dream with is important. I am very careful with who I let into my vision circle. If I feel that you are going to be a hole puncher then you will find out about my plans after the fact. If you can’t be supportive then I don’t need the negativity.   

The next time someone tries to punch a hole in your dream…tell them to go punch a hole somewhere else because you are busy living.

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Beewisdom- Failure at some point in your life is inevitable, but giving up is unforgivable.                                                                                                                                                        Joe Biden

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These Are My Confessions

Hello Honeybees,

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I grew up in the Catholic Church & attended Catholic schools from grades 1-12.  Going to confession was something that I remember doing at least twice a year.  When I was younger I would make up stuff for confession. How crazy is that. The only things that I had to confess would have been lying to my mother. Boring I know! I needed something more interesting so I made up stuff.  When I finally got to the point in my life where I really did have something to confess I was no longer a practicing Catholic. So now my confessions are just between me & God.

This is not going to be me sharing my dirty laundry with the world but rather a more humorous look at my life.

 Cue Usher………So here are my confessions…

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I do not know how to grocery shop.  When I was married the mister did a much better job of this than me.  When I leave the grocery store I have all of these bags and still don’t have anything to eat for the week.  Just crazy and mad expensive, especially when I’m trying to feed two teenage boys.

I am an introvert most of the time.  I truly enjoy my own company. That comes from being an only child I guess.  I don’t like huge crowds.  They can be a bit overwhelming to me. I have not attended events because I know that there will be a crowd & just the thought of it takes away my joy. On the other side, being around people inspires me…truly special I know.


“CONFESSION IS GOOD FOR THE SOUL”


I despise being stuck in traffic. This is another reason that I don’t like big crowds. All of the traffic that comes with the event.  It’s really bad if I’m the driver.  My patience just cannot handle the sitting & barley moving. When I attend a Grizzles game I will leave before the crowd or wait until the crowd has moved on before I leave.

One last one… I don’t like mean people.  People who are not nice for no reason at all really irk me.  Life is too short to go out of your way to be mean. It’s not hard to be nice, really it’s not.  Being nice to others can only help to bring joy to your world.

So there you have it….my confessions. And I didn’t have to make them up.

What do you need to confess?  I’m listening

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Beewisdom-Confession is good for the soul

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Lessons Learned

Hello Honeybees,

We are over one month into 2017.  This year I want to keep track of some of the random things that I have learned or relearned.  Sometimes you have to keep learning lessons before they really stick. Here are a few that really stood out in January.

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Lesson 1

If can’t go to the party don’t complain when you aren’t invited to the party

FOMO is real.  I get it.  I too hate missing the party.

When my boys were younger there were so many things that I had to miss because as a single mother I had to use my babysitters wisely. It would always make me sad when I would see the pictures from events that I missed. Sometimes I would be invited & sometimes not, but what I realized was that if I had been invited I would not have been able to attend anyway.  So why get miffed about not being invited?  I’m in a place now where my children don’t require a babysitter so I get to decide if I want to attend an event or party. As my dear friend Peggy would always say….. “It’s gonna get better B, just hold on the boys will be big enough before you know it” and guess what…she was right.

Lesson 2

Sometimes it’s not the title but the person behind the title

President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza) This official White House photograph is being made available only for publication by news organizations and/or for personal use printing by the subject(s) of the photograph. The photograph may not be manipulated in any way and may not be used in commercial or political materials, advertisements, emails, products, promotions that in any way suggests approval or endorsement of the President, the First Family, or the White House.

President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

Everyone has a job title but what you make of that title is on you.  It doesn’t matter if your title is “intern” or “CEO” it’s the work that YOU put in that makes the difference. People will see the work that you do & will in turn treat you as such.  Carry yourself like a CEO and you will be treated like a CEO, no matter your title.  If you are the type of person that treats people differently according to their title then the problem might be you.

Lesson 3

Slow down & listen for Gods directions

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I have never been more in tune with Gods voice than I am right now.  I have finally learned that God doesn’t speak in some BIG BOOMING voice from the sky.  He speaks in a still quiet voice.  It’s up to me to listen. Yes, it takes time to learn this.  Believe me it didn’t happen overnight, it was a process. I had to learn the hard way. When I would do something that God told me not to do I would always wonder “what if I had listened”.  Trust, when you get tired of the bumps & bruises YOU WILL LISTEN.

I can only imagine what the month of February has to offer.

What lessons have you learned so far this year?

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Beewisdom- No regrets in life, just lessons learned

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